How do you view failure? Do you see it as something negative that you don’t want to be associated with or do you see it as something positive that you learn from? Some people in the world don’t like failure and I don’t think anyone is ever prepared for it.
Fear of failure is the main reason why so many people in the world are not prepared to change their circumstances. Why do people fear failure so much? The reason for this is people don’t understand the dynamics involved in success and failure.
Everything we do in life has either a right way of doing it and a wrong way of doing it. When we do it the right way we meet with success sometimes, but not always. Needless to say that when we do it the wrong way we are unsuccessful and then again not always.
Understanding this is important because it puts failure in its proper perspective and removes the fear around it, but you never stop trying.
When someone who doesn’t understand this dynamic meets with temporary failure he gives up thinking that he is not good enough or that he will never make it. But is this really what it is? Does the fact that you didn’t make it the first time mean that you are not good enough? Does it mean that you’ll never make it? Not at all! All it means is you have not found the correct method yet!
So what do you do next?You go back and try and find out where you went wrong. Then you try again this time employing a different method and learning from your mistakes. When this doesn’t work you go back and look at everything you have done so far. Talk to successful people who have made it in this area. Think of what you might have left out and try again.
Whatever you do, don’t give up. Why do you need to do this? “Every failure, every adversity and every heartache, carries with it the seed of an equivalent or a greater benefit”, says author and mentor to many great men, Napoleon Hill. Failure contains in it the seed of victory and of success.
Failure teaches you what works and what doesn’t. When you study the reasons for your failure and learn from it, you’ll find the key to your success. The great inventor Thomas Edison knew this truth better than anyone else. It took Edison 8000 trials to perfect the Edison battery? Afterwards he uttered this famous quote, “At least I know 8000 things that don’t work”.
You should also think like that. Every successful person has had to overcome temporary defeat and sat backs at one time or another. Know this! You haven’t really failed until you accept defeat. Do you envy those who got success easily? Don’t! Success earned in spite of earlier failure is so much sweeter than if you would get it otherwise.
Those who earn success in this way understand the road to success. They are not afraid of losing what they have and they have learned how to become successful. Those that easily get success don’t know the road.
They got there so quickly that they didn’t bother to look around. Let me use the following analogy to illustrate. Take two guys traveling to the same destination, with this difference. The one is going by airplane and the other by car, but the one arriving by car had a few breakdowns along the way.
If you take these two guys back to their original position and ask them to find their way back to their destination, who do you think is going to remember the road better the next time? Surely the guy who had a few breakdowns and spend some time on the road, because he had the opportunity to look around.
Let temporary defeat no longer be an obstacle. You have many hidden talents, so start working towards realizing your dreams. Don’t be put off by the fear of failure. Failure is an opportunity, it contains the seed of success.